I’m 33, single and loving life. At this age I’m too old to be gullible and too young to be bitter about still being single. However, in order to recognize love when it comes your way you have to know what those four letters are and what they are not. Therefore, in this blog I’m examining the L word. Actions speak louder than words. I’ve heard “I love you” several times and it always sounds good, but if there are no actions to back it up then the brotha’ might as well have saved that breath for future oxygen intake. The best example of love in action can be found in one of my favorite books---The Bible. If you ever want to know if someone truly loves you give them the 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 test. It always works for me.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.8 Love never fails.
In other words, if he rarely gives you compliments, buys you gifts or does the things he knows you like "just because" and on special occasions, if he is regularly mean/rude to you, is jealous of you and what God has blessed you with or is unsupportive, if he thinks he’s all that and you should be happy to be in his conceited presence because he’s doing you a favor, if he always puts himself before you and just expects you to deal with it, if he seems pleased when bad things come your way and can’t wait to say “I told you so” or he’s always bringing up old stuff that the two of you supposedly moved past, if he doesn’t seem concerned for your safety or he never believes what you say and at the slightest sign of trouble he wants to bounce----he or she DOES NOT LOVE YOU! (Yes, I know that is a long sentence.) At that point you should really examine your future with that individual.
Now don’t get me wrong, we all have our flaws and the special someone in our lives may unintentionally exhibit some of these ugly traits. The question is if those flaws are pointed out is that individual willing to work on them in order to become a better mate for you? If not, you may not be getting the LOVE you deserve. I believe LOVE is something we all need in order to reach our full potential. However, you must also measure yourself by the same standard. Are you loving the one you're with the way you're supposed to?
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.8 Love never fails.
In other words, if he rarely gives you compliments, buys you gifts or does the things he knows you like "just because" and on special occasions, if he is regularly mean/rude to you, is jealous of you and what God has blessed you with or is unsupportive, if he thinks he’s all that and you should be happy to be in his conceited presence because he’s doing you a favor, if he always puts himself before you and just expects you to deal with it, if he seems pleased when bad things come your way and can’t wait to say “I told you so” or he’s always bringing up old stuff that the two of you supposedly moved past, if he doesn’t seem concerned for your safety or he never believes what you say and at the slightest sign of trouble he wants to bounce----he or she DOES NOT LOVE YOU! (Yes, I know that is a long sentence.) At that point you should really examine your future with that individual.
Now don’t get me wrong, we all have our flaws and the special someone in our lives may unintentionally exhibit some of these ugly traits. The question is if those flaws are pointed out is that individual willing to work on them in order to become a better mate for you? If not, you may not be getting the LOVE you deserve. I believe LOVE is something we all need in order to reach our full potential. However, you must also measure yourself by the same standard. Are you loving the one you're with the way you're supposed to?
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