We’ve all heard people say, “I could complain but nobody wants to hear it anyway.” Well, for the most part it’s true. However, there is a difference between complaining and just needing a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen. We all have those days when we wonder “Why Me?” and “What the hell did I do to deserve this?” When life is unfair we run to our friends, significant other or parents with our woe is me stories. After we’ve told the story, cried our eyes and received a few “I’m so sorry to hear thats” and possibly some good advice we have to ask ourselves what’s next. Are we going to wallow in self pity? As Whitney would say, Hell to the Naw! You pick your behind up and attack that situation like it just tried to run off with your new Louis Vuitton purse---that’s what you do! If you can fix it, get to fixin’. If you can’t, fix your attitude. One of the worst states I know to be in is helplessness. That’s the state of being where no matter what you say or do you can’t change a thing even though the situation is hurting like hell. Situations such as illness, death, irreconcilable break ups and taxes normally fall in that category. You have to resolve to be happy in spite of your circumstances. It’s so easy to get caught up in what’s going wrong and forget about what’s going right.
I used to be a chronic complainer. I hated my life, my body, the direction my career was going and being single. I’m sure I was a freakin’ joy to be around. I’m glad I have a big sister who’s not afraid to tell me to grow up and shut the hell up. Your perception of life truly does help determine the quality of your life. I am always amazed by people who are facing dire situations as big as mountains who don’t complain and are capable of keeping a smile on their faces. However, their secret is simple, they are happy because they choose to be. So the next time you’re feeling a little down count your blessings and I’m sure you’ll realize just how wonderful your life truly is. Do this little exercise and make a list of 10 things you are grateful for. They can be big or small. The point is that they bring you joy! Here are mine…..
Now post them where you can see them on a regular basis so you can constantly be reminded of how good you actually have it. Love yourself ladies because you’re the best thing you’ve got!
I used to be a chronic complainer. I hated my life, my body, the direction my career was going and being single. I’m sure I was a freakin’ joy to be around. I’m glad I have a big sister who’s not afraid to tell me to grow up and shut the hell up. Your perception of life truly does help determine the quality of your life. I am always amazed by people who are facing dire situations as big as mountains who don’t complain and are capable of keeping a smile on their faces. However, their secret is simple, they are happy because they choose to be. So the next time you’re feeling a little down count your blessings and I’m sure you’ll realize just how wonderful your life truly is. Do this little exercise and make a list of 10 things you are grateful for. They can be big or small. The point is that they bring you joy! Here are mine…..
- Good health
- Mental stability
- A home
- Amazing family and friends
- A business that I enjoy and that pays my bills (I’m working on a thriving business)
- A great sense of humor (Laughter makes so many situations easier to bear)
- A closet full of cute shoes
- The ability to write and encourage others
- The ability to continue to love even after being hurt
- A Heavenly Father who cares
Now post them where you can see them on a regular basis so you can constantly be reminded of how good you actually have it. Love yourself ladies because you’re the best thing you’ve got!
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