Find more blogs by Jae Henderson at My Side of the Single Life, http://imagoodwoman2.blogspot.com. You can also purchase my book, Someday here, http://www.amazon.com/shops/jaehenderson. This has been one of the hardest lessons for me to learn. Sometimes the most gut-wrenching thing to do is leave the ones you care for behind, even if it is for the best. However, the truth of the matter is everyone is not moving at the same pace you are or in the same direction so you may have to cut them loose. Sometimes you hang on for comfort or convenience. Sometimes because you don’t want to cause anyone pain. Moving on doesn’t mean you still can’t call and check on them from time to time it just means you won’t talk as much because your focus has shifted elsewhere. We’ve all had to do it…the friend who still wants to go to the club every weekend and you’ve decided you have better things to do. Or maybe you got married and/or had a baby and your single friends can’t relate to you like they used to. Perhaps, you started a business and it consumes 75% of your day so you can no longer sit on the phone for hours talking to your girls about their problems. The separation may hurt—whether the hurt comes from them or you. Yet, the laws of nature dictate that as you move forward what was in front of you will one day find itself behind you if it is not moving alongside you. God brings people into our lives for a moment, a reason, a season or a lifetime. If the friendship is doing you more harm than good it may be time to let it go because your season has ended and you have a lifetime to live in peace and positivity.
If you have to part ways with someone do it with love in your heart, gratitude for what you have shared and openness that allows for the friendship to be rekindled later on down the line. You may even want to consider keeping an open door policy so they know even though you’re not as tight as you used to be if they ever need you, they can call. Now, if a situation or altercation happened that makes that friendship unable to be salvaged, make peace with yourself and your decision and keep moving forward with a smile on your face and good memories of the two of you.
But always remember you are no better than anyone else although you may be in a better state of mind and in a better place.
Find more blogs by Jae Henderson at My Side of the Single Life, http://imagoodwoman2.blogspot.com. You can also purchase my book, Someday here, http://www.amazon.com/shops/jaehenderson.
If you have to part ways with someone do it with love in your heart, gratitude for what you have shared and openness that allows for the friendship to be rekindled later on down the line. You may even want to consider keeping an open door policy so they know even though you’re not as tight as you used to be if they ever need you, they can call. Now, if a situation or altercation happened that makes that friendship unable to be salvaged, make peace with yourself and your decision and keep moving forward with a smile on your face and good memories of the two of you.
But always remember you are no better than anyone else although you may be in a better state of mind and in a better place.
Find more blogs by Jae Henderson at My Side of the Single Life, http://imagoodwoman2.blogspot.com. You can also purchase my book, Someday here, http://www.amazon.com/shops/jaehenderson.
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