Veronica Smith...Virgin Isn't A Dirty Word
"I believe in my heart that anything you do that is in God’s will He will honor it in an amazing way. Honoring God for me is the utmost I can do because He’s done so much for me......Virginity and abstinence is in His will so that’s what I have to do."
For some meeting a 28 year-old virgin would be like meeting a leopard with no spots. It is a rare occurrence, an awe-inspiring moment and you wonder how that came to be in a society where sex seems to be promoted at every turn. But believe it or not there are those who have made a vow to remain pure until their wedding night. Ms. Veronica Smith is one of them and not only is she proud to be a virgin but she is encouraging other young people to do the same. For her virgin isn’t a dirty word and abstinence is a way of life. After a trip to Africa, she began the V Movement. Her personal ministry where she uses her testimony to proclaim her love of Christ and her respect for the body He has called her to protect.
IGW: What made you decide to wait until you are married to have sex?
Veronica: When I was young I was a little afraid to engage in sexual activity. I saw a lot of my friends getting pregnant and contracting diseases so it made me a little afraid. That fear led to education. I was told that you are supposed to wait until you have sex. I started reading more scripture and learning why God wants us to wait. I made up in my mind that if I’m supposed to be living for Christ and that’s what God wants me to do then I’ll do it. I know it’s not going to be easy but I’m going to do it.
I got the opportunity to go to Africa in 2008 with my job at the time. While I was there I got to share my testimony with young men and young women. AIDS and HIV is extremely high there. God was in the atmosphere because those young people said they also wanted to wait. My boss said while I was there the V-Movement was created. I didn’t think much of it but when I got back home God started giving me all these ideas. He wanted me to use the V Movement to reach out to the young men and young ladies. I moved to Atlanta in 2010 and started speaking at events. I’ve had the opportunity to share my testimony with people in my hometown of Memphis and Atlanta. Many of the young people I speak to have never been told that virginity and abstinence is an option. They’ve always been told just to wrap it up. God is using my voice, my race, my age and everything else He has instilled in me to reach out to our youth. If they don’t know God then that’s my opportunity to introduce them to Him.
IGW: What made you decide to wait until you are married to have sex?
Veronica: When I was young I was a little afraid to engage in sexual activity. I saw a lot of my friends getting pregnant and contracting diseases so it made me a little afraid. That fear led to education. I was told that you are supposed to wait until you have sex. I started reading more scripture and learning why God wants us to wait. I made up in my mind that if I’m supposed to be living for Christ and that’s what God wants me to do then I’ll do it. I know it’s not going to be easy but I’m going to do it.
I got the opportunity to go to Africa in 2008 with my job at the time. While I was there I got to share my testimony with young men and young women. AIDS and HIV is extremely high there. God was in the atmosphere because those young people said they also wanted to wait. My boss said while I was there the V-Movement was created. I didn’t think much of it but when I got back home God started giving me all these ideas. He wanted me to use the V Movement to reach out to the young men and young ladies. I moved to Atlanta in 2010 and started speaking at events. I’ve had the opportunity to share my testimony with people in my hometown of Memphis and Atlanta. Many of the young people I speak to have never been told that virginity and abstinence is an option. They’ve always been told just to wrap it up. God is using my voice, my race, my age and everything else He has instilled in me to reach out to our youth. If they don’t know God then that’s my opportunity to introduce them to Him.
Represent!!! Hold Up Your V's
GW: How do people react with you give your testimony?
Veronica: I get a lot of positive responses. I usually get a lot of questions. Actually more boys ask questions than girls. They want to know how do you live like a virgin. They want to know if I have a boyfriend and how you handle being a virgin in relationships.
GW: How do you deal with it? We live in a very sex driven society?
Veronica: A lot of prayer and I try not to focus on it. When I see a movie with sex in it or hear a song I try to drown it out. You have to choose. If I focus on things like that they will tempt you. I do different things to try to get my mind off of it..different activities like exercise. It’s there and it’s natural. You have hormones so you are going to have urges.
GW: Do you have a boyfriend and how has your virginity impacted your dating life?
Veronica: I don’t have a boyfriend but I have met someone and we are interested in each other. We’re currently just taking the time to get to know each other. It’s definitely affected dating in a huge way. When I was younger and I told men I was a virgin they would either stick around for a while to see if I was lying. They would try to test me and see how far I would go or they would say they can’t handle it and throw me the peace sign. They either dealt with it or they didn’t and most of the time they didn’t. It’s a lot of guys who don’t understand. So, I don’t do a whole lot of dating. It can get frustrating.
GW: Why is waiting worth so much to you?
Veronica: I believe in my heart that anything you do that is in God’s will He will honor it in an amazing way. Honoring God for me is the utmost I can do because He’s done so much for me. I believe with faith that when I do marry my husband that night will be beyond special. It won’t be just sex and that God will honor our union because we waited. Virginity and abstinence is in His will so that’s what I have to do. If I’m downed by this world because of it, it doesn’t matter. I definitely know He’ll bless me for it.
You can find more information about Veronica and the V Movement on Facebook.
Veronica: I get a lot of positive responses. I usually get a lot of questions. Actually more boys ask questions than girls. They want to know how do you live like a virgin. They want to know if I have a boyfriend and how you handle being a virgin in relationships.
GW: How do you deal with it? We live in a very sex driven society?
Veronica: A lot of prayer and I try not to focus on it. When I see a movie with sex in it or hear a song I try to drown it out. You have to choose. If I focus on things like that they will tempt you. I do different things to try to get my mind off of it..different activities like exercise. It’s there and it’s natural. You have hormones so you are going to have urges.
GW: Do you have a boyfriend and how has your virginity impacted your dating life?
Veronica: I don’t have a boyfriend but I have met someone and we are interested in each other. We’re currently just taking the time to get to know each other. It’s definitely affected dating in a huge way. When I was younger and I told men I was a virgin they would either stick around for a while to see if I was lying. They would try to test me and see how far I would go or they would say they can’t handle it and throw me the peace sign. They either dealt with it or they didn’t and most of the time they didn’t. It’s a lot of guys who don’t understand. So, I don’t do a whole lot of dating. It can get frustrating.
GW: Why is waiting worth so much to you?
Veronica: I believe in my heart that anything you do that is in God’s will He will honor it in an amazing way. Honoring God for me is the utmost I can do because He’s done so much for me. I believe with faith that when I do marry my husband that night will be beyond special. It won’t be just sex and that God will honor our union because we waited. Virginity and abstinence is in His will so that’s what I have to do. If I’m downed by this world because of it, it doesn’t matter. I definitely know He’ll bless me for it.
You can find more information about Veronica and the V Movement on Facebook.
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